A little while back I started talking to someone who, in my opinion, is pretty amazing.  He seemed to be a lot of the things I want, and I was really enjoying getting to know him.  The last couple of weeks he dropped off the radar, but I wasn't worried, I figured he was busy.  I chatted to him today via MSN and he said that he met someone, a month ago.  Neither of us had said that we were interested in each other, but I wanted to.  But I didn't want to scare him off or appear too keen or do the forbidden thing of actually telling him I liked him.  Mostly it was a confidence thing as I wasn't sure if he "dug" me or if he just liked chatting to me.  Now I'm kicking myself because he's awesome, and now he's taken.  I'm happy for him, truly I am as I'd rather people be happy and have a reason to smile.  But I'm gutted for me, especially as I wonder if I was only a couple of weeks late in meeting him?  Maybe, or maybe not, but it's irrelevant now anyway... at least though I've gained a really cool chat buddy out of the whole thing, and I'd rather that than nothing at all because he really is a super cool dude, he's wonderfully funny and most importantly he gets me.   I'm sure that will come along again, right?

There are a few quotes which are starting to make a lot of sense to me, and they're things I've been struggling to grasp the concept of.  I thought I'd share a couple of them with you here:

• If a guys doesn't call, he doesn't want to call you.
  Alex - He's just not that into you (movie)

This is true also for emailing, texting, MSN messages and pretty much any other form of communication

• Know this and be okay with it:  Not everyone is going to like you.
  Skinny Bitchin
  

  This is so true!  If a guy (or anyone for that matter) doesn't like me, it's ok.  I can't be everyone's cup of tea. 

• How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
  Dr. Wayne Dyer
  

  Sometimes just being happy for someone else, even if their actions are not what you want them to be, can leave a lasting effect.  Happiness should be spread around, not suppressed.
  

• What if you meet the love of your life, but you already married someone else.  Are you supposed to let them pass you by?
  Mary - He's just not that into you (movie)
  

  I love this quote, it's so full of hope yet is mildly depressing at the same time.  It's true, but would be such a difficult situation.  That's why most of us let 'the one' just slip through our fingers.
  

• Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.
  Dr. Wayne Dyer
  

  If we look at ourselves like this then it's hard not to love what we are (unless you're a total arsehole).  If we apply this to other people then you open the possibilities of who is attractive.  Strip it down and look inside, you might find a treasure.
  

• Many people pray and receive the answers to their prayers, but ignore them or deny them, because the answers didn't come in the expected form.
  Sophie Burnham
  

  This goes hand in hand with the above quote.  Think back, how many people have you rejected because they're too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny, too blah, too poor, too flashy, too nice, or just not what you were expecting?
  

• If a guy is treating you like he doesn't give a shit, he genuinely doesn't give a shit.
  Alex - He's just not that into you (movie)
  

  It would be good to realise this sooner rather than later.  I always get there in the end, but it does take a while and it's such a waste of my energy.

• So many people tiptoe through life, so carefully, to arrive, safely, at death.
  Jermaine Evans
  

  There is one very clear message screaming from this quote. Don't be scared to take a chance, live on the edge of your comfort zone, and stop being so safe just waiting to reach your final destination.  Live your life.

• Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage.
  Lao Tzu
  

  I always love without boundaries, without hesitation and completely.  Yes I've had my heart broken because of this, but I wouldn't change it.  To love someone with your whole self is such an amazing thing (I miss it).  To have that back is gift, when I get given it I will not be returning it that's for sure!
  

• Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
  Dr. Seuss
  

  Be yourself always, then when you attract someone you do so for who you really are and not the person you're pretending to be.  This can be true for lovers and friends.  Either way you're sure to have a solid and worthwhile relationship with those people, therefore love them back for who they are too.
  

• If a guy wants to see you, he will see you.
  Alex - He's just not that into you (movie)
  

  Yep, and if he's not and you're chasing him, poking him on MSN, emailing him, texting him and wondering when you're going to see him again. Realise that you are not! Move on, find a guy who a) likes you and b) is worth your time.